Let me preface my post by saying Jack and Mel have been (and will continue to be) friends. We may never have met IRL, but there is a relationship of sorts nonetheless. I don't want that relationship to be damaged by anything.
First I'd like to say, I agree with Fenavian in part...if you guys had come straight out and told us you were frustrated, I believe we could have come to a solution together. It may have ended up with you leaving SSX regardless if you needed to, but I think some animosity and hurt feelings could have been avoided. Maybe you thought you had "discussed" it, but most of us were completely blindsided. I, for one, had NO idea you guys were upset. In hindsight, I recall you making comments about "not taking a leadership role" and "being tired of that"...usually followed by a little laugh, and we agreed with you! You didn't need to, we didn't expect you to (which you've acknowledged in your post...we didn't expect or ask you to).
Which brings me to my second point: You guys are so good at power-levelling and gearing up! You surpassed most of us in gear fairly quickly. Being a casual guild, there are a lot of us who simply aren't logged in often enough to be able to reach that point. A lot of us are still running Heriocs for emblems to upgrade our gear. You have been wonderful helping with that. I think I can speak for everyone in expressing appreciation for that. I understand your desire to run end-game content. The fact is, most of us aren't "ready" for a good shot at it. It's no fun trying to run content that's beyond our gear and capabilities. We were just getting to a point where we could start some tougher 10-mans (Ulduar)...I guess your patience just ran out.
If I can use this past weekend as an example (as this seemed to be the proverbial "last straw" for you)...we did not have anything scheduled for Saturday night. We had a great guild run on Friday, but as we logged off, some people mentioned family commitments and such planned for the next day. I'm sorry you were logged in all day, just waiting for someone to take the lead and put a run together, but I don't think a run was expected by the majority of us. I had been playing off and on during the day Saturday, with real life interruptions and commitments breaking it up. If we HAD expected we'd be trying something, someone would have put a raid together. Most of us would have been happy just farming Heroics for Emblems. Honestly, of all the raids we've had lately, it isn't ALWAYS you starting the invites, or making the decisions...or you just do it first.
We're kind of out of the habit of scheduling raids, admittedly. We just haven't had to (or had the numbers to) for a long time. Again, that is something that could have been discussed with the guild if it was a problem. It has been VERY hard to put a schedule together, and I honestly don't think we can even make a weekly raid schedule...not as far as saying "every ---day from 7pm-10pm". We're too casual a guild for that (too many RL variables to get in the way...kids, non-playing wives and significant others, extended family commitments). I'm wandering off the topic, though. I thought we had been having a ton of fun with our spontaneous "OMG, we have 10 80s on, let's run XX!" raids, and had no idea there was an issue with that.
My final point (I promise): For me, and for many in the guild, WoW is more than raiding. Many of us love the questing, the crafting, the dailies...hell, I love fishing! I now have the feeling that you were frustrated with those of us who would log in just to do dailies, or to get a few levels on an alt...just for fun. Especially frustrated with those of us whose time in game is limited by RL...as in, if our time is limited, we should be working on our gear/raid capability. I may be way off base. If so, I apologize...I don't want to hurt feelings or get you more upset.
In my opinion, it all boils down to this: You were getting bored and frustrated, the rest of us were completely oblivious...or most of us were. Not because we didn't care, but because we didn't know. I wish you had told us straight out how you were feeling you started feeling that way, instead of letting it fester.
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